My Post-Pandemic Life

5/3/21

Ugh, now Lane County is in extreme risk from Covid 19!  If you want to get a vaccine and haven’t gotten it yet, 4j is providing them for students.  Please talk to your advocate or case manager and they will help you.

Let’s visualize your summer! This may be difficult since we don’t know the level of social distancing required but I would suggest thinking that it will remain high would be a safe bet.

Personal Development Definition

Personal Development is the process of improving oneself through conscious habits and activities.

It is the pursuit of personal growth to enhance the quality of life and to achieve one’s dreams and aspirations.

Now that you’ve recognized that a “story” you have created from your past or present how can you build a different perspective, let’s move forward!

Looking at a few of the “stories” that you discovered that you could have reacted differently to, what skills would you like to further develop in yourself?  How will you develop and practice these skills?

I would like to get better at ______________________________

  • Having a positive attitude
  • consistent stretching
  • being a flexible thinker
  • keeping his hair short

This is why I need to get better at it _____________________________________

  • It sucks being negative and people don’t respond well to it
  • it would help him feel better
  • this would prevent me from getting upset when plans change
  • long hair can get hot and itchy

This is how I will learn more about how to get better at it ______________________

  • think of the things that are going well
  • a list of stretches from physical therapists or youtube videos
  • research
  • learn how to cut hair using a manual and decide how often a hair cut is needed

This is how I will practice this skill _____________________________________

  • stop negative thinking patterns by practicing gratitude
  • setting time aside to do it in the morning
  • remembering that plans change for a specific reason
  • use a razor and hand mirror better

Let’s learn about and try the 5 second rule:

Don’t use this technique to be impulsive though.  Impulsivity is not even giving it a second before you act.  I was given some good advice once “give yourself a deep breath before acting”

4/26/21

Learn from your mistakes. Regret is like any other emotion; it serves a basic survival function. Be open to embracing the productive aspects of regret in order to lessen its duration.

  • Regret is how we learn to reexamine our actions. Personal growth and positive change would be impossible without something forcing us to periodically identify decisions that lead to negative consequences. 
  • Reframe your thoughts on the regretful situation or decision. Think of mistakes as opportunities to grow and change. Young people tend to cope better with regret, and much of that is attributed to the fact they view the emotion as a positive. They embrace the fact that regret is key to change and growth.
  • What could you have done differently. Oftentimes, people blame external circumstances for their actions. This leads to more bad decisions and, in turn, more regret. For example, say you were late to work because you didn’t get enough sleep. You might blame a stressful week or  other things for your actions and next night comes around you’ll end up repeating the process. If instead, you think, “Staying up late was a bad decision and I faced consequences,” you’re more likely to avoid such actions in the future. You’ve embraced the fact you have control over the situation rather than diverting control to external forces.

Allow yourself to grieve disappointments. Sometimes, when circumstances are particularly unfavorable, we need to experience sadness. Allowing yourself time to embrace disappointment for an appropriate duration can help you recharge.

  • Sadness is much like regret; it’s a negative emotion but one that’s beneficial to us as a species. Sad feelings push the mind into a hyper focused mode, which allows you to evaluate problems and figure out how to come to terms with life’s difficulties.
  • It’s normal to respond to negative circumstances with sadness. Avoiding those feelings can prolong the duration of your regret and frustration. After a particularly harsh failure, give yourself a week to grieve your loss and experience your disappointment.

Evaluate relationships. Oftentimes, our most regrettable moments stem from bad relationships with friends, family members, and significant others.

  • If you’re having a difficult time, leading to feelings of sadness and regret, are your friends coming through for you? Who is offering you their support and love and who is fading to the background?
  • Identify those people who do not support you emotionally and who have, in the past, ensnared you in difficult situations. Continuing to foster negative interpersonal relationship longterm is something you will come to regret. Cut ties with those who do not support you and get closer to those who do.

Think of a story you are telling yourself that doesn’t serve you well.  Take a step back and look at the setting, plot and characters. Have you left any personal responsibility out of the story?  What did you learn from the conflict?  How can you edit the story?  Can you write the story from another point of view? How does this change the story?

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Now that you’ve recognized that a “story” you have created from your past or present can have a different perspective, let’s move forward!

4/19/21

Did you create vision board? You can share it with the group if you like.  Where did you put it so you can see it often?

Now that you have envisioned how you would like your life to be, lets create a plan to move forward if your vision does not meet your current life.  

For many people it is holding on to past ideas, hurts and stresses which hold us back.

Summary of video:

Some people say the our past experiences creates our current life.

The story we tell about the past can change how we experienced the past.

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4/12/21

All Oregonians over 16 eligible to receive COVID-19 vaccine starting April 19!

Spend some time thinking about how you want your life to look like in a month in these 4 areas:

Vocational -(work) where you see yourself working and making a living

Training – (life is a process of learning)  what do you need or want to learn more about

Social – (friends, relationships, family) what do you want your social life to look like

Independent Living (adulting) what skills do you need to live the independent life you may want

Let’s create a vision board to help remind you of your ideal life and motivate you to achieve it.

4/5/21

Spend some time thinking about how you want your life to look like in these 4 areas:

Vocational -(work) where you see yourself working and making a living

Training – (life is a process of learning)  what do you need or want to learn more about

Social – (friends, relationships, family) what do you want your social life to look like

Independent Living (adulting) what skills do you need to live the independent life you may want

3/29/21

How has your life changed already?

Lane County has entered the “low risk,” see this website to see what is allowed under our current restrictions.

https://coronavirus.oregon.gov/Pages/living-with-covid-19.aspx

Have you gotten your vaccine? 

https://lanecounty.org/government/county_departments/health_and_human_services/public_health/2019_novel_coronavirus__c_o_v_i_d19/vaccine_registration_information

Vision Boards – Make A Plan For What You Want

 

 

 

 

A vision board can be a very useful tool to help you focus and visualize what you want in life.   A vision board is basically a collage that allows you to lay out your ideal future using pictures and words.  Studies show visualizing your goals can improve motivation, and concentration, while reducing fear and anxiety. 

Some Areas Of Life To Consider When Creating A Vision Board:

 

Things You Will Need To Create A Physical Vision Board:

Magazines, pictures, photos, colored pencils, markers, pens, scissors, glue, pins (if using corkboard), poster board, paper, cardstock, canvas, corkboard, stickers.

 “Everything About Vision Boards”:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jw8ZwoLqdPc

Steve Harvey & Oprah On Vision Boards:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pJNed-owcP8

Jack Canfield: How To Create A Vision Board:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iamZEW0x3dM

Digital Vision Boards:

You can create a beautiful digital vision board using Pages, Word, Google Docs, or your favorite photo editing software or App. 

You can use the free sites:

Canva https://www.canva.com/ or PicMonkety https://www.picmonkey.com/

Here is a link to a video with some ideas for creating your own digital vision board. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TcXm7R3BUdU

 

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